There have been times in my  life that the phrase ‘What if..’ has become a kind of mantra and I would find myself repeating it over and over again.  What if I’d never met so-and-so?  What if I hadn’t fluffed that interview?  What if I’d actually caught that train?  What if I’d accepted that dinner date?

The questions might be different subjects, but all the questions are basically the same: how would my life be better if I’d made different choices?

Even though the what if’s have ruled my life from time to time, in reality they do not help one little bit.  Sometimes they build up regrets for choices we may now think were bad, although at the time they felt right.  Regrets do not help when we have got ourselves into sticky situations.  Sometimes we have to say OK, I stuffed up.  How do I fix it?  The what ifs can hold you back.  Saying instead: OK, What Now, will help you move forward.

Sometimes the what ifs come forward from a different perspective.  You made a choice that turned out to be great and life is looking so good but the what ifs sneak in and upset your contentment by whispering in your mind, “What if you hadn’t done…..?  Life would be so bad.”  And that can lead you down a spiral that spoils the enjoyment of your great choice.

There is no doubt about it: if you find yourself saying those two tiny words about a decision you have already made….  STOP.  It’s won’t change anything!!

If you find yourself saying those words about a choice you have YET to make…  great.  Run through all the scenarios you can think of – the good, the weird and crazy, and the bad.  They can help you make a conscious choice that you can life with.  And there are no what ifs, because you solved them all first.

Ashirvad Shanti
Blessings of Peace

Auri’An